They call it tough love because it’s hard for the one administering it, though the one receiving it often plays the victim.
As a result, I often wait too long and then immediately struggle with feelings of guilt….
C.S. Lewis had a little to say about this. “Love may forgive all infirmities and love still in spite of them, but Love cannot cease to will their removal.”
Thus, it seems that tough love’s the only kind of love that’s really love at all.